We all get angry at some point—it’s only natural.
Yet sometimes, anger builds up and grows out of control, becoming our go-to in situations of injustice, stress, or pain.
You may get easily frustrated with your boss or dwell on a work problem, leading to recurring outbursts. You might lose your temper too quickly, getting aggressive and occasionally violent. Or maybe you often feel annoyed and lash out at your loved ones and even strangers for no apparent reason.
Uncontrolled anger can be quite dysfunctional, damaging your physical, emotional, and mental health, as well as your job and relationships.
Uncover and take care of what’s beneath your rage.
Anger management therapy can help you understand what’s at the root of your anger to experience healing from the inside out.
My name is Christian Holmes, and I’m an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) Registration #120391 under the supervision of Mark W. Baker, Ph.D. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #MFT19289. I offer anger management and other therapy services to support teens and adults throughout California.
My anger management approach sees anger as a secondary emotion—an avenue to release pressure from hardship or cover up other primary feelings. For example, sadness or fear may make us feel exposed and helpless, so we may switch to anger to avoid such level of vulnerability.
I strive to help you see through the rage to work on these hidden issues so you can regain your quality of life.
If you are struggling with anger, you are not on your own. Contact me to book a consultation, or read on to learn more about how I can help you!
What Is Anger?
Anger is an intense emotion that may flare up when we experience disrespect, unfairness, stress, or hurt. We often react with anger to protect ourselves or handle pain and turmoil.
Sometimes we can steer and move through these feelings. Other times, they become so severe and persistent that they may prompt risky or destructive behaviors.
Do I Need Anger Management Therapy?
Common signs of uncontrollable anger include:
- Constant arguments or outbursts
- Dangerous behaviors (e.g., drinking, threatening, or becoming violent)
- Experiencing distress or causing distress to others
- Irritability or mood swings
- Isolation or having people withdraw from your life
- Problems expressing emotions and getting vulnerable
- Rapid heartbeat, sweating, and clenching
- Self-harming or vengeful thoughts
You may overlook these red flags or manage to avoid your anger temporarily.
Yet, over time, untreated problematic anger may have serious consequences. It may lead to high blood pressure, impair your daily functions, and affect those around you. It may also bring shame and low self-esteem, especially when you hurt those you love.
Don’t wait to seek help. If you or your loved ones display symptoms of unhealthy anger and are looking for more than a band-aid solution, anger management can help.
How Can Anger Management Therapy Help?
Disruptive anger may make you want to escape, numb yourself, or push people away, eventually making matters worse.
Anger management therapy is an effective treatment that can help you examine and address your anger in a healthy way, so you can recover stability and control.
Anger management therapy can support you by:
Revealing the Source of Your Anger
We will meet in a confidential setting to explore what sparks your anger, what physical and emotional sensations come up with it, and what’s at the core of your outrage.
The goal is not only to notice your triggers and reactions but to identify and treat the root of your anger—versus simply easing the symptoms.
Cultivating Awareness and Self-Compassion
Therapy is a process of self-discovery. I will encourage you to get curious, reflect, and gain insight into yourself while nurturing empathy and self-compassion.
You will get a better understanding of your emotions and how they impact yourself and others, recognizing any patterns fueling your anger (e.g., catastrophizing, ruminating thoughts, criticism).
Regulating Your Emotions
This introspective journey is the foundation for learning practical coping strategies. I will equip you with resources and skills to handle life stressors and regulate difficult emotions. This includes impulse control, assertive communication, knowing when to exit the room to calm down, deep breathing, and other relaxation techniques.
The purpose is to teach you how to channel your frustrations and express your needs without exploding or holding everything in. You will also be able to solve conflicts and improve your relationships as a result.
Anger Management Therapy With Christian Holmes
I’m an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) Registration #120391 under the supervision of Mark W. Baker, Ph.D. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #MFT19289.
I offer anger management therapy for adults living in Pasadena, Glendale, San Fernando Valley, Beverly Hills, San Gabriel Valley, and closeby areas. I also provide individual therapy for trauma, ADHD, depression, anxiety, and self-esteem issues, as well as couples therapy and group therapy.
I integrate different methods such as Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Mindfulness to customize treatment according to your traits, story, and goals. My practice centers on addressing your whole self (body, mind, and soul) to reach a lasting transformation.
You may feel scared and powerless when anger is in the driver’s seat. I understand how debilitating and destructive it can be for you and the people you love. But I also know you can build your distress tolerance, take control of your emotions, and handle life with intention given the proper guidance.
Don’t let rage derail your present and dictate your future.
Let’s collaborate to find the truth beneath your anger and pave a clear path forward.
If you or your loved one need anger management therapy, let’s talk! Contact me to book a consultation or schedule your first appointment today!